Everyone is serving some sort of ‘realness’, a presentation of themselves they want accepted, whether it is a class, gender, or sexual face they put forward and hope no one notices that there is no such thing as realness.
All presentations of self are false - our various faces we put out in society, hoping to pass in one or many ways. Having been either slightly or dramatically outcast, we gain the sense that the rules we violate, causing us to fail at passing our various presentations, are all arbitrary, but presented as real and immutable.
Social life is a great hoax and that’s ok - it is like that for everyone.
“The only thing “free” about so-called free time is that it doesn’t cost the boss anything. Free time is mostly devoted to getting ready for work, going to work, returning from work, and recovering from work. Free time is a euphemism for the peculiar way labor, as a factor of production, not only transports itself at its own expense to and from the workplace, but assumes primary responsibility for its own maintenance and repair.”—